Happy Saturday everyone.
It's been a morning of steady rain here.
One of those lazy mornings that you tend to stay in bed a little longer.
A morning that you put off getting dressed until it's almost noon.
A time of reflection, devotion, and memories.
The Mister and I had a "date night", last night.
We got out of our normal blue jean attire, and put on our "Sunday best".
We had dinner at the most expensive restaurant in town. (We live in a resort town, but we actually have a very nice restaurant for dining, when you don't want the usual resort kind of fare).
The atmosphere, and the menu was a pleasant change of venue.
When I woke up this morning, I started to think about how far the Mister, and I have come on our life's journey together.
The changes that have taken place.
The situations that have come, and gone.
The disagreements....soooooo many disagreements.
The obstacles that get in the way.
Pride that needed to be swallowed.
Learning to pick your battles.
Wondering "if it was all worth it".
And remembering......him laying on the cold tile floor next to the hospital bed after the brain tumor surgery.....all night.
How hard he squeezed my hand when the words uterine cancer came out of the doctors' mouth as we sat in the doctors office that awful day.
The day I walked into the garage, and found him crying over a situation concerning one of our daughters.
The times he reaches over in the night, gently lays his hand on my head, and prays for me.
It's true what they say, you know.......the good, far out-weighs the bad.
I just hope the Mister remembers that when he lays in bed some rainy morning thinking about me!!
xoxoxo
xoxo So beautiful!
ReplyDeleteDebbie, What a beautiful post. You are in love the guy...what can you do? :):) It's the hard times that can make the man a Knight. Blessings, xoxo,Susie
ReplyDeletelovely post & I love the name of your blog!
ReplyDeletehave a wonderful weekend Debbie ♥
Yup, for better or for worse and it takes a lot of give and take to make it work. You wouldn't really put black shoe polish on his Harley, would you? LOL
ReplyDeleteSounds like you got way more better there. All of that better should erase anything worse. So happy that you have the one meant for you...that he is there when you need him, and that all that love you have for each other could never be measured...because its endless. ;)
ReplyDeleteYou are so right about picking our battles, Debbie. I still am trying to learn that! What a wonderful hubby you have. But of course he is the lucky one, he has you! Sometimes they drive us crazy, but then when they are our rock when we need them most. Well, that's why we love 'em, I guess, right?!
ReplyDeleteThese are words that stick like glue to a heart that knows; this world has struggles and they wind up in so many places. They leave us with the truth of what really matters! I will be sure to lay in bed and think on my Mister and count my blessings. And hold his hand and pray with him! I am so glad to have found you!
ReplyDeletexoxo right back at you... Roxy
Beautiful thoughts for a rainy morning, Debbie! If reality was made only of "happily ever after" stories, it would probably be the most boring thing in the world... But the truth is that coexistence is one of the most complicated things in life, because it shows our less flattering aspects nude; and beyond any disagreement, what really matters is to be able to count on each other in difficult and scary moments like the ones you describe... Those not-so-little details are the essence of a solid marriage, in my opinion! So just count to ten every time that man throw you off balance ... in the end he´s not a Knight, he´s only a man -and you certainly love him that way ;)
ReplyDeleteWarmest hugs,
K.
So beautifully written, Deb. I feel the same way so many times...trying to balance the good and the bad. The good times, the arguments. The happy days and the many day we are like strangers. Marriage is a series of ups and downs. If anyone says it's perfect or that they always see eye to eye...well they may just be blind! I feel guilty sometimes thinking that I may have been better suited for someone else...yet I can say the same for him. Truth is...we made it this long so I think the answer is in the years! And for me, my beautiful children I have to thank him for.
ReplyDeleteThank you for making me think and rejoice! And for loving rainy days! :)
XO,
Jane
Oh- Amen and Amen and Amen. We have the same thoughts, Debbie-but that shouldn't surprise you at all....and hubbys both had brain surgery. I love how connected we become in blogland. Blogging sisters that "get it". xo Diana
ReplyDeleteDebbie,
ReplyDeleteThis is so beautifully written from your heart. Just beautiful
Kris
I want to cry! What a lovely, lovely post. And funny, too. I could just see a Harley all polished up, lol !
ReplyDeleteHi Debbie, How wonderful to read your heart touching post today. It speaks for me as well and I love this kind of reflection. This made me laugh and cry both knowing the ups and downs of life, but still finding the love within.
ReplyDeleteWhat a blessing you are. So glad I found you!!
Have a nice Sunday and Be Blessed!
Hugs
You are so right about the good outweighing the bad! I'm lucky to feel that way about my marriage too. I guess that's why it keeps on going. So glad to know that you had him to support you though your difficult time. Sounds like he's a keeper! Btw, are those pictures of your dining area? They're beautiful!
ReplyDeleteThat's so beautiful Debbie! Your hubby sounds like a keeper. Having been in a bad marriage for many years where I was regularly called names (even the 4 letter C word, oh yes...really!) I appreciate every second I have with my Kyran. He's my Knight in Shining Armour for sure and I feel so blessed to have him:) I wish I'd been one of those people who found the right one the first time around but, things didn't happen that way for me!
ReplyDeleteDate nights are so much fun! We had one a few weeks ago and really splurged, I had a $25 steak, yum!!!
Thank you for your lovely reminders of what's really important in life Debbie, they get forgotten so often:)
This just made my heart smile. So many give up on marriage so quickly. There have been many times I've felt like throwing in the towel and walking away (I'm sure for him too), but commitment kept us together.
ReplyDeleteI love the picture of him praying for you. That is just precious. It is obvious how much he loves you, and you him.
Blessings, Deborah
They say we marry our best friend... nope, not always. But in time we learn to love them with all their quirks, why? Because they too have learned to love ours. The important part in any marriage is to look at and through your husband as God sees them, that's the only thing that saved our marriage. Once I could see why he repeatedly set out to hurt me and was able to finally stand up to him with truth, I was able to remember why I fell in love with him and set out to accept him instead of exempt him. When I first met Jimmy, I thought to myself, "what a huge, sweet ole Teddy Bear he is." I saw how he always had his hand protectively around you. He loomed over you like a satin protective shield and... well, yeah, I envied that. Than as we grew closer, you and I, I knew exactly why he treated you like the treasure you are. You gave me strength and hope to keep trying. Most of all it's the greatest example you have made for your children to look up to and follow. And I guarantee your daughters are thankful for the dad Jimmy is to them and the force he stands for when they started to date and made sure the guys knew that, yes, your daughters were treasures too. The two of you don't know what a inspiration your marriage was for me. You guys gave me hope that if you guys could make it through the, "for better or for worse, for sickness, for poorer..." the of you came out richer than almost any marriage I've witnessed. You're in it for life and even ever after. I love you both so very much and so glad God brought you both into my life.
ReplyDeleteI appreciate your thoughtful post. Most of us experience very difficult challenges and bumps in the road in life, and it's wonderful to be able to have the support and encouragement from a devoted spouse...to stick together through thick and thin.
ReplyDeleteMary Alice